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The holiday season is a time for visiting relatives. This is what we did one day last week. One of our relations took us out to eat and then drove us around town to show us the sites. But guess where we ended up. Visiting our long gone relatives in the cemetery.

It just struck me as odd. Here we were trying to visit with two of my husband’s relatives and we end up in a graveyard. Those that have past on are not really there.

Graveyards can be interesting. I saw a grave of a one day old (a come and see); saw many who had been in the military. It is just that I think the time would be better spent talking to the living and if they want to reminisce and tell stories of the departed, that is fine. But walking around a cold graveyard just does not strike me as quality visiting especially when your time is limited.

I know the “Day of the Dead” is real big in some cultures and that makes more sense as that day is specially set aside and every one knows they will be at the cemetery to honor those who passed on and also to tell their children stories about their relatives.

But when I visit the living, I want to find out what is going on in their life, how they are doing. Tromping around a cold cemetery seems like a strange use of limited time, we know these people are dead and they are buried there so why do we need to go and see the grave. It is not like they are hanging around there waiting to commune with us. Oh well, maybe it is to get in touch with our mortality. These relations are getting older and they may be thinking of the day they will be joining those in the graveyard.