I wrote about reincarnation yesterday. Today I wanted to tell you about a contract between my husband Paul and I that I believe we made before coming to this plane.
When I started dating, I always matched my stride to whomever I was going out with, checking to see if they matched. After going out with many boyfriends, I went out with Paul. We had the same stride! That had never happened before. Now this is not something I would base a marriage on but Paul was different. All my other boyfriends lasted about 3 months then there was a mutual drifting apart. After 3 months with Paul, I knew I wanted to be with him the rest of my life.
There is another side to this story, Paul’s side. Before we met, I had decided to die my hair a dark auburn color (it is usually dishwater brown or dirty blond. Appetizing names right?) I then started to look for a new church. One that I visited and liked had an active singles group of which Paul was a member. So the first time Paul saw me I had red hair. He told me years later that he was looking for someone with red hair like I was looking for someone with the same stride.
Another interesting aspect is that both Paul and I were born in Virginia to Texas parents who moved back to Texas as soon as they could. My family moved to Houston when I was 3 ½ and Paul’s family took a more indirect route through Oklahoma before arriving in Texas. Virginia has always been important to me. People would call me a Texan and I would get very indignant and say, “No, I was a Virginian”.
We took a couple of vacations several years ago that took us through Virginia. Going into the State I had the overwhelming feeling that I was home. When we started heading back out, the closer to the State line we got the harder I cried. There was such grief at leaving and I did not know where it was coming from. This summer I had a past life reading that explained the connection to me. Now I know it was very important for me and for Paul to be born there.
I have often asked myself that question. Why am I here?
From an early age I have believed in reincarnation. In this belief there is the idea that we are here for some reason of our own choosing.
When I was a teenager I hoped that this time around the reason would be “just for the fun of it”. I just did not want a lot of work. Well it has been a lot of work! Maybe I knew that it would be a lot of work and I was dreading what was to come.
I think we put together a contract and a loose game plan for this life. It is a good thing we do not remember what we agreed to before coming here or we would be in a panic the whole time here and not accomplish anything.
Look back on your own life for the last 10 years and see how it has changed.
But what if we knew how things would turn out. What if we could see that light at the end of the tunnel. Would we be more relaxed about life and the dramas that are going on around us.
What is your reason for being here? I think everyone has a different reason. Most of us probably don’t have a clue. I think Mine is to grow and stretch spiritually.
What do you believe?
“We can learn so much by observing the way our pets rejoice in life’s simplest moments. For a dog, every morning is Christmas morning. Every walk is the best walk, every meal is the best meal. Take time every day to celebrate the many gifts that are hidden in the ordinary events of your life.” —- Cesar Millan, The Dog Whisperer
We tend to neglect the little celebrations in life and go for the big ones such as Christmas, New Years, Valentines Day, Birthdays, etc. Why can’t everyday be Christmas? Not with the gifts and the stress but with the joy and the hope and the happiness. Each day has it’s own celebratory events. It may be seeing a rainbow or tasting a heavenly slice of cake or having a purring cat sleep in your lap.
To Practice This Thought: Look for the joy and the magic in each day. At the end of the day list at least three things that were magical to you.
I have been harping on Challenges and Problems lately.
They are so important because your attitude is important. If you have a good attitude things tend to fall into place. This is the law of attraction working.
I have been paying attention to my attitude and what has been going on this year. There were times I was sinking in my financial problems not seeing a way out. When that happened I usually could not see how next months bills were going to be paid. But then I would tell myself, I was not going to go there and everything would be ok. I would have to force an attitude adjustment on myself. When I did that, soon something would happen and money would come through.
I deliberately noted that the attitude change came before the problem cleared up.
What has been the challenge is to keep that positive attitude. All year I have vacillated between the two. Feeling optimistic then feeling pessimistic. That is my main challenge. What is yours.
As I mentioned yesterday, you can have challenges and you can have problems. Challenges are a more optimistic way of looking at them. Challenges give a sense of hope that you can rise above the situation. Problems sound more ongoing something that you never quite get rid of.
You can turn your problems into challenges. This is not always easy to do. It requires you to stay hopeful and optimistic even when you do not feel like it. Thinking of your problem as temporary can make you feel more hopeful right away.
If you are jobless, or homeless or your relationship has just fallen apart, it is not the end of the world. It may feel like it right now but there is a tomorrow and you can stay hopeful of the possibilities of what is to come.
Dream big. Think about the best possible outcome. Who knows, you may get 4 job offers tomorrow, someone you hardly know may offer you free housing, you may literally run into someone who develops into the perfect relationship.
The main thing is to remain positive and optimistic.
Which do you have problems or challenges.
Do you hear the difference in the two words?
One makes you feel limited; it is like a thorn in the side, an irritation that is always there that you cannot get rid of. The other is more optimistic; it is something to rise above, to be conquered.
Which would you rather have in your life?
I am often guilty of seeing problems instead of challenges. I am working on the more optimistic challenges instead of dwelling on the problems. It is hard work and I don’t always succeed but at least I do see the difference and am trying.
Some people think that God does not talk to us mere mortals. That He only talked to the prophets of old.
I don’t believe that.
He talks to us all the time.
Some people are in such alignment with God that they don’t know that God is talking to them. They take it as their own thoughts. In other words they own the thoughts.
Others are on such a different wavelength that they have to be hit in the head before they finally ‘sit up and take notice’. That is when they realize their thoughts are coming from somewhere else. I think this is what happened with Neale Donald Walsch in his Conversations With God books.
Others start to seek Him out, usually after they realize they are hearing such thoughts and they realize they are not from themselves. I am not getting all psycho on you. This is meditation. These conversations leave you at peace with yourself and the world. If you are more upset afterwards, these thoughts are not of God. God leaves you will peace, joy, love, harmony, the fruits of the spirit. He also leaves the judgment up to us, He does not judge.
Just realize that God is talking to us all the time, no matter where we are. It is our choice whether to hear Him or not.
If you live a thankful life, you will live a happier life.
Go on a walk today while the Turkey cooks and before the game starts and look at everything through new eyes.
Be in the moment. Be grateful for what ever you see. Be grateful even for the cracks in the sidewalk. Ask those with you to be silent and just listen to the sounds around them for a few minutes. Then be grateful that you can hear such sounds.
Come home and have a Great Day.
I just watched “Mr. Bean’s Holiday”. It was rather silly, but every once in a while you need a silly movie.
I started thinking about his holiday. It was not what he wanted or how he had envisioned his vacation. But it sure would be one he would remember and cherish the rest of his life.
Have you ever had a vacation like that? I have. A good friend and I took a 7 day vacation one Thanksgiving to a Jack Tar Village in St. Kitts. We love telling the story of the clock that lost 10 minutes an hour that we did not realize until 2 days latter and we tried to fix but caused it to explode, about the tub’s water valve that came off in our hands shooting water all over the place, the sliding door that would not close and trapped the attendant on the balcony who came to help us with it. Then there was the broken electrical line that blew out the electricity to the rooms but don’t worry the resort had back up generators, for the casino. Every day and almost every hour was an adventure. For families these vacations are bonding experiences. These events become inside jokes.
Maybe that is the way we should look at the hardships in life. Not as hardships but as bonding moments. Just take them in stride and go with the flow. Then when you get to the other side you can look back on it and say “wow, that was exciting” and you will have something to talk about.
In other words, don’t have died before you die. Live, Love and Laugh.
Watch out. Stress can lead to a lot of problems. Sometimes when stress is not acknowledged, mainly because you do not even realize it is there, it will show up in other forms. Its most common form is a physical ailment due to a decrease in the immune system such as the shingles I have recently been dealing with.
Stress can also mess up your hormones. That is why a woman who is stressed will quit having periods. I have also found out that the stress that messes up the hormones can also cause hot flashes for a woman (guilty again).
Stress is insidious in our society. If you can keep it from bothering you, it won’t affect you as much physically. How to keep it from bothering you? Meridian Tapping is good, but if you do not even realize you are being stressed you won’t know to tap for it.
If you can keep a fun and playful attitude about life and what is happening around you and even to you, you will fare much better. So it is an attitude adjustment that is required. Just need to realize that life is suppose to be fun not a drudge. So play with life, play with energy, experiment. Maybe that is something I can tap on.